job recession??

How is that the people who are "looking for work" and "can't get a job" are the ones taking vacation everywhere....they complain about not finding a job,m but in essence, believe me I know, it actually takes WORK to look for a job....hat I don't get is the people who have no income are going on vacations and then complaining about no job later....hmmm whatever.

My niece and our dog

On our way through Texas, from Key West to San Diego....how precious.

San Diego

Moved to San Diego, getting settled in, and I should be unpacking a few more boxes and organizing, but I am doing this instead. LOL. I am def loving it here, although military housing was a flop...if you don't have kids and have large dogs, look elsewhere, that would be my advice. We finally found a nice house in the Paradise Hills area, big huge backyard I am trying to grow grass in. Living off base for us is different since back in KW we lived on base housing.

Jake loves the Coronado Beach Park though, we went last week when mom and dad were down, it's nice to be close to family again....even though my sister and brother in law moved to Maryland, I hope they are settling in well.

I am going to load some pictures from our drive from Key West, Fl to San Diego, Ca....what a drive!!

Mr. Obama Birth Certificate/$25 million to Libya?

So, Mr. President, so many were under the impression that you ALREADY proved you were a US Citizen....so why PROVE it, or at least appear to prove it now? Ohhhh, that's right, you just approved $25 million dineros for no lethal aid to Libia....GREAT, more money WE DON'T have to another country besides our own.....awesome. How about you deal with gas going over $4 bucks, job loss, economy, gas prices, home loans, HEY Mr. PREZ "BAIL ME OUT"!!!!! Ugh, so over this whole administration digging us into a even deeper grave. I am proud to be an American, Mr. President, why don't you start acting like you are too???

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2011/04/26/obama-authorizes-25-million-non-lethal-aid-libyan-rebels/?test=latestnews

Women and competition.

I am not sure I understand why some women are so destructive to other women; those who they call their friends.

Like why do women have to compete with other women? I don't get it. Like why is is that women who have friends have to have "friendship competitions?" Like when friend A & B post that they had a good time here and there, why does, NOW, friend C & B have to point out where they went too.....it's like, comon' ladies, it's not original and it's not funny, it's high school and immature. To me, looks like someone is jealous of someone else's friendship. Ugh, so over it.

Why can't people just be happy with their situations and their friendships? Why do they have to compete with one another, like they're jealous of each others friendships? It's not a competition. I don't think there are some ladies who got this memo....it IS okay for your friends to have OTHER friend. UGh.(this is why I love the hide button on facebook!---now I can hide your meaningless posts).

Dove Chocolate Party.....fun fun!

So, tonight I went to a Dove Chocolate Party and it was So much fun!!! Had a great time meeting new people and visiting with old friends. It was a great time and, Monika, the host, was so much fun! If you ever get the opportunity to go to one, GO! It's a great way to get to mingle and eat some chocolate!

Why

Why do people settle for those who are trash? Seriously, why do people settle for the low lives, the people who treat them like garbage, the ones who marry "just to keep him/her happy"? I don't get it. If you are miserable, I HOPE you didn't knowingly choose to get into that. You can't change your spouse, you can't change them into what you want, that's why there are 6 billion or so people on this earth. To CHOOSE from. If you are miserable, say something or get out...but please don't get married to someone you know will have to make you sacrifice ALL your happiness just so that they can be happy.... I see this a lot with military marriages: getting married because their pregnant, or young, or he's leaving, or they graduated high school, or he's going on a boat. Wait. If I would tell young people anything about the military and marriage is WAIT.

We weren't going to wait, but after discussion and advice (yes, we asked for that rather then shunned it), but I am so glad we did. We are both so different now then we were 6 years ago, and honestly, we thought of getting married cause he was "leaving", but it made no sense to me. I will never understand that concept of the military "relationship".....It was like, why get married when he's be leaving and could die? Either way, I'd be alone for the first part of our marriage; we didn't want that.

The military's high divorce rate is due to this: people marrying other people they don't love, but rather, are comfortable with. I see so many of these active duty guys who are miserable, and to a handful of them, I think, heck I know you wife, no wonder you are miserable...it's sad but true. These are the women who hate all other women. You know these types, they are the one who think anyone who is a female is either a)hunting her husband down cause they LOVE him, 2)skinner then her, or 3)"well she's just a bitch". Don't laugh, it's true.

My advice, WAIT and WAIT until you find someone who truly makes you happy. If you get pregnant, don't marry her cause you have a baby, marry her cause you love her, this is another royal screw up with many military families: Oooops babies and then mommy and daddy suddenly get married and love each other, seriously, just because you can have sex and get pregnant does not make you IN LOVE. Don't get married cause you think it's right...the kids will know, and statistically speaking, you have a higher divorce rate. You can be a parent and not be married to the other biological parent. Why would you marry someone you don't love, and in lots of cases, grow to "put up with".....

I don't understand all these young people who have "miserable" marriages around me...1)I don't care, and 2)You chose this? I mean, everyone has their problems, but bitching about your husband all the time, and your kids, and daycare, and you hate this and don't like her? Honestly, maybe you're miserable because you, yourself, are a miserable person and you don't like where you're at, even though you made this choice. Own up to it and grow a pair. Get over it and do something or be content with the fortunate chance you were given.

All this is another reason why NOT to settle for the one you "want to hook up with" rather then the one you "want to marry". You'll wind up like so many others: miserable and feeling stuck.

three year freeze on military pay and stuff?

My response to http://www.armytimes.com/news/2010/11/military-debt-commission-recommendations-111010w/

I read this, and I am kinda (don't hate me) on the fence about being all bent out of shape about it. Both my husband and I are in the service, so yes, it would affect us, but it's only being considered, it's not in writing, they're throwing ideas out there how to save money. (right or wrong, I know).

I just come from a different viewpoint I guess where everyone else in the civilian sector is cut in pay, benefits, etc. but the military can't be (this I am thinking is their viewpoint)? Firefighters, cops, law enforcement, they are being fer-lowed (made to work for free) right now, my father is in law enforcement and it's true. He puts his life on the line daily for us, and he's being made to work for free, not getting paid, his pension being negotiated to get lowered cause the Federal Govnt can't afford it....it's bad all over. It's sad because the military is complied of the people who fight for our right, and fortunately, up to this point, we haven't been 'scraped' of our pay, told to work for free, our medical coverage taken from us; in the civilian world, this is the case, and it's sad.

I don't see this going any further, due to the outrage the military community will raise if it goes past this point. It's a pay freeze, not a pay cut, but either way, and I am sorry to say this, but military families have gotten used to pay increases, esp with Bush, and even Obama. The military community, generally speaking, isn't used to being cut back on pay, especially the younger people like myself---yeah we complain that "we didn't join for the money and stuff", but we joined for the benefits and steady income. It's INSANE to get medical coverage through a private company right now at a civilian job (did this before I was married-or tried to) and it was very difficult. I would get all my "medical stuff" done on drills cause I couldn't afford it otherwise.

I understand people are upset, and I have issue with some of the things in this article they want to cut back on, but you start neglecting pay increases to a entity that is used to getting that, then the number of enlisted people will go down, and people will be angry, and that is never good.

People in the military---and their families-- get commissary privileges, discounts at parks, groceries, military discounts in many businesses and shops, medical coverage, dental, optical coverage, car insurance breaks depending on who you use, FREE housing that doesn't come out of your base pay, and many other perks. I am quite frankly tired of hearing military spouses complain about how "they can't freeze our pay, we're the military". To that I say, look around, look at the economy, you think you're the only one having financial trouble? It's not just military folks, it's everyone. At least in the service you don't have to (not all but most) have to worry about a house payment, medical bills, and hospital bills; civilians and other who aren't "in the military" don't get these perks.

I would hope this won't happen, as I am sure the military member or their family wouldn't want it to happen either, but unfortunately it's the nature of the beast. It may be a possibility, but I don't see it being put in stone cause there will be just too much outrage from the military community.

It's like you tell the cops, firefighters, private investigators, corrections officers, etc that we're going to cut your pay, and it's done---it's fought, but in the end it is done; but you say to the military we're going to freeze your pay; and it's suppose to be some big travesty, like it's illegal or something to even consider "doing something that looks like you're not rewarding the service members" .

Maybe I think this way, which I know is NOT popular amongst a lot of spouses, but to them I say, I don't think I am entitled to anything as a military member, especially a pay increase. I am no better then someone who isn't in the service, and to act as such makes me upset. I hope this 'idea' to freeze military pay, amongst other things, does not happen, but I will not stand on my high horse saying "my husband serves this country (and myself), how dare them do this to US"....it would make me sound entitled, which is what a lot of civilians think of military people ---gosh, I wonder why?

Scentsy stuff.....

So, if you have followed me on facebook, you know I sell (and use A LOT) of Scentsy stuff.

I had my first Women'e Expo this last weekend and have a Holiday Open House this upcoming Saturday, and just signed up for the KW Grace Lutheran Art and Craft Fair show, so I will have a table there. All 3 weekends back to back to back....phew, I will be tired come December hehehe.

Scentsy is proving to me a success for me here, and has taken off. I have a new recruit here locally, who, I am sure, will do well when I leave and 4 other recruits all over back home and in the north eastern too....so maybe I have a team being built that will prove, maybe one day I can quit my day job and be a Scentsy Consultant full time. That would be awesome.

I am planning on gong to the Convention this next year in Fort Worth, TX in early Aug....which should be a great step if I want to take this Scentsy stuff to the next level. I hope where we get stationed next year takes to Scentsy like the military community and locals have here.

by the way, if you're interested is Scentsy look here: www.scentsy.us/brookecowan
it's the SAFE way to make your house smell good...no flame for me to leave burning, my mom would be SO proud! hehe.

Growing up

I am realizing that growing up mean taking responsibility for your actions: good or bad. What can't other adults do this also. No one wants to admit when they're wrong or when they've made a mistake, but I am looking hope in humanity when I see the nation, fro our the top to the bottom make excuses for their wrongs; rather then saying "I messed up" and learning from it. I wish some of my friends and co workers would take note, cause they really look like a fool when they screw up royally, then blame the little guy---really? We're there?

I am leaning that growing up means forgiving those who wrong you. I had a situation recently where I was wronged, but as with anything, you move on and you decide how to react. I can only be responsible for my actions and hope that it may be an example to others. Forgiving those who wrong you, and really, deep down, forgiving them, takes a lot. It takes a lot of hurt to overcome, but wow, what freedom and release you get from it. May God allow me, and others, to be able to responsible for our actions, even when it's not a good thing, when we mess up, and to be able to move on from those situations with a better understanding for life and hopefully learn how to handle those situations and most of all, how to be humble.

Friends and Respect

What is it with military wives my age and not being able to support and talk to one another like adults? you know, face to face? I don't know what it is? Is it that I am educated, child-free, have a side business, am happy...I mean, what the heck else is it? Why is that all these above things seem to be thrown back in my face, like they're BAD things? I am proud of my accomplishments and love life, why is that such a threat to others, it appears to me like they're jealous, and for what? I am normal like everyone else.

I have been friends with now 4 military wives (all young mothers with, now that I see it, self esteem issues)kids and low self esteem---2 things I don't have, I am confident-what the hell is wrong with that?

Can women be friends when they're too chicken s*** to talk to each other face to face when they disagree or don't see eye to eye....all 4 of them hid behind technology and email and facebook to communicate, so basically, I had to be the "grown up" and now all 4 of them have seen my face in a final "conversation" and then seen my back walking away, cause they couldn't communicate like adults.

Readers Digest version of the recent DRAMA in my life. [why isn't there any drama with my non military girlfriends....hmmmmmm???]

I HAD 2 good friends who decided to go BEHIND my back and no even speak to me again....had no intention to unless I wouldn't had confronted one. Why? Who knows....

I had 2 friends who were very supportive of my home business and so in love with the products, enough where a friend decided to have multiple parties....frequently....she was a great hostess and we had fun!

So---through wonderful(I say sarcastically) facebook, I find out she all the sudden has a Scentsy website, so I am thinking, so cool, she's finally decided to sign up to be a seller herself(it'll save her some mula), which we had talked about many times. So I go to my website to email her and congratulate her, and to inform the "team" of our newest member....she didn't sign up under me. I am not sure why.....

So I call her, no voice mail, text and email her telling her congrats on signing up and I was wondering why you decided to sign up under someone else since we had talked about it all the time, and because we were friends. You know, plain old curiosity and a bit of feeling bamboozled. Well.....

No news to this day, and she hasn't returned a call, text or email....

It's not about her signing up under someone else, who cares, seriously, I do this for fun and I enjoy it, but she went behind my back trying to hide it, as if she knew what she was doing was unethical. The other "friend" (her right hand) straight up told me, when I confronted her as to why she enabled and supported that kind of behavior, she said she "would choose her over me".....so I decided to wash my hands of both of them.

How rude to do that, to just throw a friendship away over some stupid thing, and then not have the gall to face me or talk to me or just say "I had a friend I signed under her" or something....what a slap in the face. now she's having a party the same date and time as me, real original chick.

What's even worse, is I see her in the grocery store today and say hi to her (cause it is SERIOUSLY the right thing to do)....she doesn't even make eye contact. Now that's immature, you can't even say hi back? How old are we? I don't get it, I don't' want to get it, cause a person like that I don't need in my life; certainly not on my business team.

I do wish her and her family well, and to the friend who "choose her over me", I wish her well too and will be praying for them, because their "christian" attitudes, in all reality, need a little tweaking if they ever want to be taken seriously as sisters in Christ. I tried to do right by me and be accountable for my actions, they just want to run from theirs I suppose.....I tried to handle the situation as Christ would, but it's hard to "turn the other cheek" sometimes. I am working on it.

I guess I just killed "2 birds with one stone"....oh well, guess it's a life lesson. All those women, including myself, we all have lessons to learn, I just think they all need to take a "grown up class" and learn that when you have a problem or issue with someone you TALK to them...but these are the women who don't even tell their husbands when they're upset (cause they tell all their other women friends) cause they think treating him like crap is "their conversation" like that solves the problem...psh.

P.S. I did actually gain another AWESOME business member throughout all this, a mature woman who is honest and we are able to disagree and move on from that (because we can communicate as adults). It's nice to have women in your life who can be honest with you, it keeps you HONEST, and yet after it's all said and done, you can get along. And for that I am grateful to have those friends who are honest back.

Transfer Season

Sooo, it's that time in the "military life", well, at least for the Coast Guard---it's transfer season. The "shopping list" came out (lists where you are able to go based on your husband's rate/rank)...and the excitement, or disappointment ensues.

Well, I don't normally know much about it, expect Kent and I discuss the ones 'we would like to go to' and he picks the one's he'd like to be stationed at. I, unlike a lot of other over jealous wives, don't have a list printed out for me and check mark em off; I trust my husband to pick the ones HE'D like to go to, and then I say "sure" or "what? you're kidding me right?"...It kinda bothers me when the wives know more about the lists then their spouses....but I won't digress.

So, with this list coming out, it may look like, coming out of Key West, we will get a NOT SO GOOD PICK. Kent and I have both thought hard about this, and we hope he get's the one 'he's shooting for'....only time will tell. The Coast Guard's needs come first, not mine, nor his....we just hope our 'needs' and the CG's jive.

So, within the next few months we will find out where "we go next". You know, some people hate that about the military, and others don't care...I have learned this is a choice I made and what happens happens, and I have no power over it. Hopefully God's plan for our lives in the next few year is something we are prepared for, but with God, there isn't anything we can't overcome or face together.

It's like Christmas time in the CG right now, you're finding out whether you will be getting a home made Christmas gift from you grandmother or a kick ass one from your best friend.....

People who OWN or WANT animals.

Okay, so after my summer reading list goes on, I have just finished up Ceaser Milans' Ceaser's Way. It's a great book, and a great outlook on dog psychology, i.e. how a dog's mind works in retrospect to our minds as humans.

Dogs are a different species, and they don't think like us. THEY AREN'T HUMANS. They aren't a accessory, and they aren't an ornament. They are dogs, taken from their natural world and 'domesticated' by us for OUR satisfaction. They adapt for us, why can't we meet in the middle and try and understand their world, their mind, rather then think a dog, who can't speak, can change into a 4 legged human.

Read this book. Basically, if your lazy, don't get a dog. YOU ARE MISTREATING them if you don't ever take the friggin thing for a walk. It's like a kid, a tired kid is a well behaved kid, less fuss from them. Exercise, Discipline, and Affection......not the other way around, if you don't hold yourself to a disciplined lifestyle, then don't put your poor dog through that. They need to be in a good mental state just like their owner hopefully is.

JMO

Oil Spill-AUG 2010

So, I have been deployed 22 days so far. Many to go. It's hot here and the oil is 'disappearing' so to speak. The media is blaming the CG Planes for dropping too much dispersant----I'm not too in tune with who and what is really in charge; I just know my duty is to help find the oil so we can clean it up. I hope the public, even those who are frustrated, know that we in the USCG are just trying to help clean up the oil and get this Gulf cleaned up.

I am so fortunate to be doing my deployment over here in the good ole USA, and to all the women serving overseas is war zones, to you guys, I give my greatest thanks! May we never forget your service and we'll see you when you come back home safe! God bless the USA!

Okay, so what's you're guys/gals opinion on the Oil spill? Who's to blame? Is it being 'cleaned up' to your satisfaction? Do you follow the media/news? What's your thoughts?

Family

We're creeping up on our 2 year anniversary. It seems like we've been together for years...I remember that day, it was one of the best memories I will have. It's a day I started my new life with my husband and became part of his family, but it was also a day I "lost" my family.

To this day, I don't know what transpired, and after 2 years, I am long over it, moved on, from whatever I must have done, obviously it will always be 'our' fault...but that's really not a surprise to me... I learned a long time ago that I was never the little girl they wanted me to be....I thought too much for myself.

I have never really talked publicly about this, as it's really no one's business, but it helps me to write about it...how much, even now, though I am actually resolved and okay with the way it went down, that it hurt a lot. I don't know why. Obviously they didn't give a rat's ass about me, or my new husband, but it really hurt me. It hurt my feelings and my pride; it was embarrassing to me, especially in front of my new family.

I know the Christian thing is to forgive and turn the other cheek. I have forgiven them. But more importantly, I have forgiven myself for whatever I must have done that was such a tragedy that day. I don't know if they will ever understand that talking about it to the people who were actually involved is usually the best way to handle a conflict, but they're too selfish for that; to selfish to admit wrong.

I don't know why they left, and it would be nice to know, but honesty, after 2 years, I have [unfortunately] resolved myself to knowing that when I see them next- if I ever see them again- it probably won't be at a celebratory event. They don't want us at those anymore. I mean, it would just reopen a wound that is healed.

I am not saying I am a saint in all of this. I have no problem admitting if I did something rude or offensive, and I definitely have no problem apologizing for that. No one likes to be wrong or to apologize, but I have learned in my short life, it's not only humbling, it's empowering; it's freedom. It would lift a weight----and it would be complete closure--for me. I am not looking at a friendship, but rather closure......it's not like involvement in each others lives is a reality or even a desire, but an apology is.

I guess I would just like a "fair" shake at this whole thing. I mean, when you hear they're talking about it, a year later to other extended family, that they're talking s*** about you, even if you know it not a shock, it's still rude and hurtful. It gets to you. I guess if they really wanted to move on, they would talk directly to the people that were involved, not spread rumors to those who don't need anymore gossip in their lives. But, talking to me, to us, would constitute admitting some form of 'repentance' or 'wrongdoing'....and in all my time of knowing them, I don't think I have ever seen humility or repentance.

I think it would show true, pure, and honest unconditional love...but honestly, and I have felt this for many years, but I don't think unconditional love was ever anything but conditional for them. It's how I have felt for years, and only now I have I said it verbally (well written it). There was always a price for their love. It always came at a cost.....and this time, BAM- the cost was whatever relationship we had... It's called "consequences for your actions", and it's not like I want to be a bitch about it. I don't.

But I can't let toxic people in my life, family or not; especially when they walk out of the most important day of a person's life. They walked out, and I hope they have looked back and thought about how they could have handled it differently. I know, if I knew what I did, that I would do the same, and hopefully try to mend that wrongdoing.

Well, it was my family. I think, in a way, God is using this as a test in my life..I do not know what will happen, what the ending will be, if it isn't already ended, but it will be a lesson, I am sure. It's like I lost part of my family, but I got a new family; a family who loves me unconditionally. A family who doesn't hold things over my head...a family that WANTS to know me, the real me, and not ostracize me for it.

Random Fact of the Day

The numbers '172' can be found on the back of the U.S. $5 dollar bill in the bushes at the base of the Lincoln Memorial.

I am curious. I am always "that wife" when I go to functions with the other spouses....not that I feel out of place, but when everyone sits down to talk about how long they were in labor, the baby, contractions, etc....I get annoyed. I don't mean to be rude, I am just asking. Has anyone experienced this [before]?

When I get together with the ladies, someone, somehow, the conversation always turns to kids.....I don't have kids, honestly it's not too interesting to me, I don't mean it rude, and I try to change the subject to a "common" ground subject, but it's always back to the kids....It has limited me in how long I stay at function, etc....cause it's like I don't want to be rude and say "you know, I have heard about your kids/delivery/pregnancy/etc too many times....." but I would like to chat about things that are more interesting to me....

I don't know, I have noticed this more amongst military spouses, and I hate to put a "title" on anyone, and this doesn't apply to ALL MILITARY SPOUSES, but it's like being a mother is all is expected of you---not that THAT'S bad, cause I want to be a mother one day too, but it's like being a mother, staying at home all the time is the norm----if you work and don't have kids, YOU ARE the odd one out.....it's like being mommy and not doing anything for yourself professionally or educationally is 'expected'.

I see the military spouse as a 'dependent'.....I really think the military loves that A LOT of the "wives" are literally DEPENDENT upon their military spouse. I don't feel that I am, and for me, the term dependent is kinda strange... I DO think there are wives that depend on their husbands and DON'T contribute the the family in any way (mother/worker/clean/etc)--for those, I feel sorry for the kids and the husband. I understand if you have issues that impede you from working(serious issues like young young children/health/etc) but I am sick of the complaining about money when the person complaining DOESN'T work....they don't contribute financially to the bank account. [I said FINANCIALLY, I know wives contribute...]

Everything is a choice, so having 2 kids under the age of 5 back to back is YOUR CHOICE, so don't blame your husband for not making enough money, don't bitch about not having enough money when you get WIC, when you don't pay for your house cause you get BAH, etc.......It's just irritates me....essssspecially when you are pissed about money and you say "I hate the military"--excuse me? The military provides and pays for your free milk/juice/cheese, etc, your HOME, your medical, your gas when you go places (within reason)...get real! And shut your mouth when he's gone.....he could be on a air craft carrier, out 8 months...it could ALWAYS be worse. If you didn't want a husband away for a month here, 3 weeks here, back and forth, then you shouldn't have marry a man in the service---don't marry him then bitch about the "cons" later. We all know what it's like when the hubby is gone on deployment, it's not fun, and we wish he was hope, but stop griping, it makes you look like a lost puppy. Embrace it as distance makes the heart grow fonder...you aren't having to work 70+ hours a week to feed your kids, he is....so be thankful and stop winning. It's rude and annoying!

Oh no, here comes the backlash....this is in no way a reflection of EVERY Military spouse (wife) I meet, I just have to vent to someone, and my husband doesn't want to hear it. And I can't talk to most of the women down here about it, cause, well, that's why I am writing this. I know I am a loner and may be perceived as "anti social"; it's not that, it's just that going to a 3 year old birthday party is not something I really want to do. I don't mean it to be rude, I just don't have young ones, I don't want to go to a kids party...and I don't feel offended if I am not invited: I don't have children. I guess I have dug my grave, but I feel like I am the odd duck (not shocked or uncomfortable) just kinda over being subjected to events or get togethers where I hear about babies all night long, No grassy-ass.

LOVE IT!

Change Your World
By Brian Tracy

You cannot change the world, but you can present the
world with one improved person, yourself.

You can go to work on yourself to make yourself into
the kind of person you admire and respect.

You can become a role model and set a standard for others.

You can control and discipline yourself to resist acting or
speaking in a negative way toward anyone for any reason.

You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
rather than the hurtful way.

By doing these things each day, you can continue on your
journey toward becoming an exceptional human being.

Sum it up for ya!

“Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare
their achievements with those of other people”-Nido Qubein

If you can't be a good friend and be happy, I mean genuine happiness in your heart, for your "friends" then get out.....

If you want to compare everything to me, then get out...I don't have time for that. I don't' care about your education level, how much money you make, what rank your husband is, how long he's been in, how much HE makes, what kind of car you drive...but somehow these things are SO important to you that you have to bring them up.

If you don't have enough self confidence to believe in yourself, be happy for yourself and be PROUD of who you are, how can I help that, how do I help lift you up? My words of encouragement and uplifting are shot down, and after a while it get's old and I don't want to be the one you "lean on"...

I don't feel sorry for people, nor myself. You won't be the best at everything, the prettiest, or the richest-that's reality. So stop feeling sorry for your situation, and step up.

If you feel at the bottom of your game, then to me, you have one way to go, and that's UP! Now start looking up, and BELIEVING it....be grateful for compliments and stop downing yourself, it's annoying.

I am just so sick of hearing all these women my age piss and moan about their "lack of money" "their kids" "their jacked car" "their this and that"...and then COMPARING it to all their other "lady friends"....sheesh. Then when I try to be nice, it's me being bitchy cause 'you don't understand'.....no I guess I don't.

I guess I like to be happy and be grateful for the things in my life. I guess I understand that life doesn't give you everything you WANT. That things in life have to be earned. You have work hard for things, no one is just going to give you something cause they feel sorry for you.

Reality is REAL. If you want something, here's a concept, go work for it, go get it, go after it! Stop bitching about it and get it!

---just thought I give a little piece of my mind and some tough love to myself and whomever read this....if you got offended, my bad, you don't have to read this. It's not to offend, it's to inform...and maybe give me some release too.

A Saying I Read

I read this today, and it needs to be read by so many....especially the weak in soul who like to point fingers, yell things they have no idea about, and make up false situations to better their side and hide their hurt and anger....It definitely made me think about the words I say, cause words, no matter who from, they mean something, and when they are accusations and untrue, they stick....they hurt, and they make me want to disprove the allegations and be a better person....That's what I am working on.

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”

I know some people in this life who showboat about being happy....when you showboat, usually it's the opposite about what you are "raving" about. Ignorance is bliss for those; they are oblivious to the truth and hurt of the real world; they are oblivious to the true nature of relationships--that truth, honesty, and a willingness to give up a piece of yourself is required....you can't expect others to be the only ones to do that.

Comparing yourself to a friend also jeopardizes the relationship. It's taints the free love spirit that a true friendship is. How do you be a friend who always sees the bad in you, the "you're better then me" attitude? If your friend does something you don't like or you don't understand; ask, don't blame, cause it ruins what ever could have been.

Anyways, just something happened the other day that made me think of this, and I got an email from a old friend about being happy, with scriptures and such, with the saying, about blame. It made me want to write about it; get my feelings and thoughts out on it.....just my stuff....take it as you will.