Friends and Respect

What is it with military wives my age and not being able to support and talk to one another like adults? you know, face to face? I don't know what it is? Is it that I am educated, child-free, have a side business, am happy...I mean, what the heck else is it? Why is that all these above things seem to be thrown back in my face, like they're BAD things? I am proud of my accomplishments and love life, why is that such a threat to others, it appears to me like they're jealous, and for what? I am normal like everyone else.

I have been friends with now 4 military wives (all young mothers with, now that I see it, self esteem issues)kids and low self esteem---2 things I don't have, I am confident-what the hell is wrong with that?

Can women be friends when they're too chicken s*** to talk to each other face to face when they disagree or don't see eye to eye....all 4 of them hid behind technology and email and facebook to communicate, so basically, I had to be the "grown up" and now all 4 of them have seen my face in a final "conversation" and then seen my back walking away, cause they couldn't communicate like adults.

Readers Digest version of the recent DRAMA in my life. [why isn't there any drama with my non military girlfriends....hmmmmmm???]

I HAD 2 good friends who decided to go BEHIND my back and no even speak to me again....had no intention to unless I wouldn't had confronted one. Why? Who knows....

I had 2 friends who were very supportive of my home business and so in love with the products, enough where a friend decided to have multiple parties....frequently....she was a great hostess and we had fun!

So---through wonderful(I say sarcastically) facebook, I find out she all the sudden has a Scentsy website, so I am thinking, so cool, she's finally decided to sign up to be a seller herself(it'll save her some mula), which we had talked about many times. So I go to my website to email her and congratulate her, and to inform the "team" of our newest member....she didn't sign up under me. I am not sure why.....

So I call her, no voice mail, text and email her telling her congrats on signing up and I was wondering why you decided to sign up under someone else since we had talked about it all the time, and because we were friends. You know, plain old curiosity and a bit of feeling bamboozled. Well.....

No news to this day, and she hasn't returned a call, text or email....

It's not about her signing up under someone else, who cares, seriously, I do this for fun and I enjoy it, but she went behind my back trying to hide it, as if she knew what she was doing was unethical. The other "friend" (her right hand) straight up told me, when I confronted her as to why she enabled and supported that kind of behavior, she said she "would choose her over me".....so I decided to wash my hands of both of them.

How rude to do that, to just throw a friendship away over some stupid thing, and then not have the gall to face me or talk to me or just say "I had a friend I signed under her" or something....what a slap in the face. now she's having a party the same date and time as me, real original chick.

What's even worse, is I see her in the grocery store today and say hi to her (cause it is SERIOUSLY the right thing to do)....she doesn't even make eye contact. Now that's immature, you can't even say hi back? How old are we? I don't get it, I don't' want to get it, cause a person like that I don't need in my life; certainly not on my business team.

I do wish her and her family well, and to the friend who "choose her over me", I wish her well too and will be praying for them, because their "christian" attitudes, in all reality, need a little tweaking if they ever want to be taken seriously as sisters in Christ. I tried to do right by me and be accountable for my actions, they just want to run from theirs I suppose.....I tried to handle the situation as Christ would, but it's hard to "turn the other cheek" sometimes. I am working on it.

I guess I just killed "2 birds with one stone"....oh well, guess it's a life lesson. All those women, including myself, we all have lessons to learn, I just think they all need to take a "grown up class" and learn that when you have a problem or issue with someone you TALK to them...but these are the women who don't even tell their husbands when they're upset (cause they tell all their other women friends) cause they think treating him like crap is "their conversation" like that solves the problem...psh.

P.S. I did actually gain another AWESOME business member throughout all this, a mature woman who is honest and we are able to disagree and move on from that (because we can communicate as adults). It's nice to have women in your life who can be honest with you, it keeps you HONEST, and yet after it's all said and done, you can get along. And for that I am grateful to have those friends who are honest back.

Transfer Season

Sooo, it's that time in the "military life", well, at least for the Coast Guard---it's transfer season. The "shopping list" came out (lists where you are able to go based on your husband's rate/rank)...and the excitement, or disappointment ensues.

Well, I don't normally know much about it, expect Kent and I discuss the ones 'we would like to go to' and he picks the one's he'd like to be stationed at. I, unlike a lot of other over jealous wives, don't have a list printed out for me and check mark em off; I trust my husband to pick the ones HE'D like to go to, and then I say "sure" or "what? you're kidding me right?"...It kinda bothers me when the wives know more about the lists then their spouses....but I won't digress.

So, with this list coming out, it may look like, coming out of Key West, we will get a NOT SO GOOD PICK. Kent and I have both thought hard about this, and we hope he get's the one 'he's shooting for'....only time will tell. The Coast Guard's needs come first, not mine, nor his....we just hope our 'needs' and the CG's jive.

So, within the next few months we will find out where "we go next". You know, some people hate that about the military, and others don't care...I have learned this is a choice I made and what happens happens, and I have no power over it. Hopefully God's plan for our lives in the next few year is something we are prepared for, but with God, there isn't anything we can't overcome or face together.

It's like Christmas time in the CG right now, you're finding out whether you will be getting a home made Christmas gift from you grandmother or a kick ass one from your best friend.....